A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person- Mignon McLaughlin
One of the biggest and most important ceremonies of our lives is no doubt one's own wedding. It takes in a lot of effort to put things in place, both by the bride and the grooms side families. Manifesting this big event into a grand success needs co-operation. Nevertheless , people somehow marry after they fall in love. Initial innings of life fairs well with deep love among the couple. They not only are satisfied with each other but also imagine their life to be a fairy tale worth living. Later do they know, that all this is just the beginning. A relationship works two way and if there is a slight distraction, it does not take long to build room for confusion. It is then Ego plays the main role, it keeps on hinting on the negative aspect of the partner, almost neglecting the good things that one did before. One of the biggest problems one can face after marriage is , no support from family emotionally. If a family cannot hold them together, then there exists no such place to live on this planet.
It is the responsibility of the mans parents to make their daughter-in-law get along with them. She needs to understand them first and then think about maintaining their values. If this goes unattended, there comes culture clashes along with mismatch of thoughts. A girl leaves her family to settle down with her husband to live a life of harmony. She deserves love and respect. She should not loose her individuality and her own interests. Keeping herself rooted, she not only has to look after herself but also her new family. Similarly, men should be humble and caring towards their life partner. There is no relationship where there are no ups and downs but the minimum it is, the best it will be. He should not be blindfolded against the wrongs that is happening to his wife. He should handle things tactfully. He who carefully balances his work and life is a happy man.
Together the couple should be responsible for their own life's decisions. No third person's opinion should matter at all. After all we grow up, get matured to decide for marriage and then only think to settle down with our own set of goals. It is primarily the couple's choice of life. Life is a challenge and it involves lots of planning, any small mistake can be fatal, hence there should be a transparent relationship between the couple.
Troubled marriages affect people both mentally and emotionally. There might be chances of depression and emotional breakdown time and again which no doubt is a bad sign. To overcome this , one needs to realize how important it is to pay attention towards your partner. In the long run no one turns up for you, except for the one you marry. The world that we live in is very complex and complicated. No scientist or spiritual Guru has realized what life is exactly... It all involves proper intellectual thinking before doing things. A mistake once committed should be rectified and mended only then can one rise and be happy altogether. Lastly, if all this makes sense to you and you are nodding reading those lines, it's time.... SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE :) :) and love more and more...
